Written by Charlotte Moore
There’s just something about a long hot summer that sends sparks flying. From later evenings (meaning plenty of time for connecting) to wedding season, the sunshine truly is a time for romance.
With this in mind, we sat down with relationship therapist, Jodie Slee to figure out the best summer activities to help you build connections, start conversations and set you up for a summer of love and each one is backed by science.
Love is a rollercoaster - right?
Think about that feeling when you’re on a rollercoaster. You’re at the point just before the big drop and you feel something in your stomach. A combination of fear and excitement. Well, apparently, that feeling is more similar to attraction than we realised.
“So, there’s actually a link between adrenaline and arousal!” Explains Jodie. “It’s known as the misattribution of arousal. For example, when actually experiencing physiological responses related to fear, the brain misinterprets these responses as romantic arousal.” Time to look at bungee jumping then? “It can be something as simple as a horror film, when we feel fear - for example watching a scary film or at a theme park, we’re more likely to hold hands, to lean towards each other and that can help spark connection.”
Take a Summer stroll
From blooming botanical gardens to a regal stately home to your local park, taking a stroll with your new partner can be a great way to start conversations. According to Jodie, there’s a scientific reason why ‘long walks on the beach’ are so romantic. “There are no distractions, which is perfect for starting conversations. And just like any other exercise, it gets the blood flowing and produces endorphins, which always puts us in a more positive mindset.”
But, where you pick is just as important. There’s also some strong scientific evidence behind being in nature and how we feel. “When we’re out among greenery it can improve the production of serotonin - the happy hormone - and leave us feeling more positive.” So, think of a public park or garden over a mooch around your local shops.
The recipe for romance? A picnic
“The best way to build intimacy? Eye contact” explains Jodie. “Our technology can be a barrier to intimacy so, picking a setting - like a picnic - where you’re looking into each other's eyes can be good for sparking romantic feelings. It’s also a great space for you to share your vulnerabilities and really discover if you have things in common.”
Pick up a few bits from your local supermarket, grab a blanket and set yourself up for a low-cost, but thoughtful date. There’s also the benefit of eating al-fresco, the sunshine boosts dopamine. “Dopamine is a motivating neurotransmitter, which can make us feel happier and more upbeat.”
So, pack a bag, find a local beauty spot and don’t forget the sunscreen!
Outdoor yoga/painting/anything?
“We’ve all been on a date to a bar,” Jodie adds. “And people enjoy creativity.” It’s your chance to really show off your ideas and picking a more creative approach can help set you apart from other potential partners. “Being out of your comfort zone means you’re more able to open up to someone, which can be really helpful for building connections.”
From goat yoga (it’s real, trust us), to a rooftop cinema date, there are plenty of options if you’re up for trying something a bit different. Consider it your chance to pick an activity you wouldn’t normally take part in and push yourself to try something new - with someone new.
And, if nothing else, you’ll always be the couple that had their first date with baby goats.
Are you looking for more date ideas? We’ve got you covered. From Spring dating to Winter romance ideas, we’ve got options for every budget.